When you experience angst in your mind, in your body or in your presence in the form of a person or an experience, it is difficult to escape the draw, the attraction - almost like a black hole.
The safest and most effective escape is inward, where there is peace and calm - like the depths of the ocean with the raging sea tossing and turning at the surface. Realize it may not be the person or the experience creating angst, but your own self reacting to the person or experience.
Go deep. Release self blame. Release the need to blame another or any outside source. It is a natural reaction towards angst, even if it is clothed in silence.